Does serving others seem like a good idea, but when it is time to actually do it you feel resistance? The following tapping exercise is designed to help you begin to address any resistance you might feel.
Say these
words while tapping on the karate chop point: When I think about serving others I get a little uncomfortable. The word “serve” really sticks in my throat. I think of slavery, oppression, and ownership. I sometimes enjoy doing things for other people, but a resist if I feel I must. I am choosing to tap now for more clarity about my resistance. I am choosing to learn more about my motivations. I am choosing to love and accept myself on this journey.
Eyebrow…The importance of serving others is something I’ve grown up with
Side of Eye…But I’ve also grown up with the concept of being used by others.
Under the Eye…That gets a little muddy in my head sometimes.
Under the Nose…I can’t even say that my motives are always altruistic when I am doing things for other people.
Chin…If I want them to feel gratitude am I really serving?
Collarbone…I don’t know.
Under the Arm…If I want them to remember what I’ve done for them am I really serving?
Top of Head…I don’t know.
Eyebrow…The motive seems to be more important that the action in this one.
Side of Eye…If that is the case, I have a long way to go.
Under the Eye…My behavior is much more in line with service than is my attitude.
Under the Nose…I do care about other people.
Chin…I’m not completely narcissistic and selfish.
Collarbone…I get pleasure from helping others.
Under the Arm…But if I’m getting pleasure from it am I really serving?
Top of Head…Do I have to be miserable to serve?
Eyebrow…Do I have to suffer to serve?
Side of Eye…Many of the great “servants” that I’ve been told about
Under the Eye…Had lots of bad things happen to them.
Under the Nose…I don’t really want that.
Chin…I don’t think this is something that I’m going to get the answer to.
Collarbone…I think this is one of those things where it is the journey that is important.
Under the Arm…I usually hate those.
Top of Head…I’d like some more guidelines please.
Eyebrow…How much service is enough?
Side of Eye…Can two acts of service balance out an afternoon of self-indulgence?
Under the Eye…I’m not totally serious about that, but I’m not totally kidding either.
Under the Nose…I want to get a little bit more comfortable with the idea.
Chin…I’d like to recognize more opportunities for service.
Collarbone…I’d like to think of others more often than I do now.
Under the Arm…I guess that is progress.
Top of Head…I choose to remain open to more clarity and understanding about serving others.
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Notice how you feel. Were there questions that popped into your mind? Were there moments of clarity? Write them down. They could be inspiration for more tapping later.