That seems like a pretty straight forward algebraic equation. We can plug in two numbers and calculate the third one. Another interesting aspect of such an equation is that there are limitless possibilities for Z. All you have to do is change either X or Y or both.
A while back I read a book called Jump Ship by Josh Shipp. He uses this equation to illustrate a method for moving toward achieving your dream job. In his formula X is your present, Y is your past, and Z is your future. I was quite intrigued. I would like to rearrange these components based on time. My formula would be Y + X = Z. With the change in order we could read this as: take your past, add your present to it, and you get your future. Why is this change of order important to me? Because you can’t change your past. You are stuck with it. BUT – it doesn’t dictate your future. You still have X, your present, that you can use to either overcome or enhance whatever is in your Y. Sure mathematically the order doesn’t matter, but in the context of understanding your life it might.
Many people go to therapy and assert that they CAN’T do certain things because of their past or because their past means that they ARE a certain way. I’ve never believed that. Now I have a way to illustrate why. Mathematically speaking, assume you have a past with a numerical value of 2. I gave it a low number because you may have lived in poverty, had a mean stepmother, or grew up with prejudice. Your desire is to have a future that is a 10. Perhaps for you a 10 would include financial abundance, great relationships, and good health care. We can plug it into the equation and solve for X. In this case, X=8. That might mean a lot of work to make your present an 8, but at least you know what it would take and can make a decision about whether or not you are willing to work that hard. Just because you started out at Z doesn’t mean you have to end up there.
Although scary, the reverse is also true. Perhaps you had a wonderful past and assign it the value 8. Like most people, you want your future to be a 10, but are putting in -2 in your present. You are just floating along without achieving anything, using drugs, or hanging out with people who are “takers.” Where are you heading for the future? Not a 10; you are on track for a 6.
The main point is that your past does not decide your future. It is your present that decides where you are going. Not 5 minutes ago. Not 5 hours ago. Not 5 years ago. The decisions you make in THIS moment. No……Wait…….This moment…..Each and every moment are the ones that determine your future.
I know that many people have developed the habit of starting the morning with the news, whether print or digital. That habit can have some merit since you can prepare for the weather, have the latest news to discuss with colleagues, or enjoy a chuckle if you are reading the comics. The downside is that you are also exposing yourself to all of the negativity that has accumulated in the world the night before. Have you ever wondered how reading about murder, theft, hunger, poverty, corruption, and deceit might impact your day?
I have found that I often start my day at a full sprint. I pop out of bed and fly through my morning performing tasks at superhero speed trying to get as many things done in as short a time as possible. Again, this has both positive aspects as well as hazards. When in sprint mode I can cross many things off of my to-do list and give the appearance to myself and others that I am amazingly efficient and effective. But at what cost? After this sprint to get things done I am usually too tired and too grumpy to enjoy the free time that I expected to have later. Truthfully, when in that mode I suspect that I’m not all that pleasant to be around either.
At different times in my life I have made the effort to exercise first thing in the morning. I got up very early and dedicated that time to riding my stationary bike. Most of the time I also had some positive attitude or personal growth CD playing in the background. The combination was fantastic. I know other people use yoga, meditation, spiritual study, prayer, or running as a way to get their day started in the right direction.
Other times, and prior to the time change (now sunrise comes after my work day begins), I took my dogs on a short walk to get some fresh air and exercise and to enjoy the beautiful mountain scenery. They felt better. I felt better. That feeling persisted throughout my morning at work. Once darkness and black ice interfered with our early morning walks I began using inspirational CDs during my commute to gently lead my mind where I wanted it to go. Most mornings you will find me listening to Wayne Dyer, Anthony Robbins, or the Dalai Lama. I confess that during the Christmas holiday season (starting around Halloween for me) I listen to endless hours of Christmas music instead becauase I adore it.
I am trying to be more aware of my mindset at the beginning of my day and have noticed that when I do plan for a peaceful start that I have a more peaceful day. I can tell a difference in the way I feel about the world, myself, and the people I meet when I have made a conscious choice to start my day in this manner. It does take some planning and intention to manage my time in the morning so that this is possible. It is all too easy for me to just hit the floor running. But, much like the garbage in – garbage out metaphor in computing, peace in – peace out seems to be every bit as true.
I hate to admit this, but I tend to jump to conclusions. That’s not much of a surprise. In fact, my Myers Briggs personality type is INTJ. That J stand for Judging. Now in the Myers Briggs, judging does mean judgmental, but there are those tendencies.
This personality trait shows up frequently while driving. Recent a truck pulled out in front of me and I instantly thought, “wow, that is an odd color for a truck.” In a split second, and without much information, I made the assumption or jumped to the conclusion that the truck was a funky color. Upon closer inspection I noticed that the truck was actually covered with dirt and other evidence of an off-road adventure. Underneath all of that the truck appeared to be white – a very normal color.
So what – you might say. By itself this even had very little meaning. As I continued to ponder this I wondered how often I make snap judgments without all of the information. This also raised some other questions.
- When I do make snap judgments, am I open to additional information?
- How often are these judgments correct?
- Am I really not very observant?
- How do I take in more information?
- Would I benefit from slowing down by judgments?
I am a work in progress and plan to consider these questions more as I go through each day. Perhaps this is an issue that speaks to you too. How many snap judgments do you make? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.