Like most things, making quick judgements about people, places, and situations has both an upside and a downside. Sometimes these quick judgments can save your life. Other times the quick judgments have the negative connotation of being too judgmental. I confess that I often fall into this latter category making judments at lightening speed. Tap along with the video to experience meridian tapping as it is used to diminish the downside of this personality trait.
Have you ever skipped a planned workout because you didn’t want to go? Or if you workout at home, have you skipped a workout because you just didn’t feel like doing it? I have. This video demonstrates how you can use tapping to keep you on track with your health and fitness goals.
Meditation is good for me. I think most people would admit to that. I am personally guilty of letting anything and everything interfere with my plan to meditate. That is true whether I am planning to meditate for 5 minutes or for an hour. Fighting against the resistance has been futile. Tapping about the resistance has been beneficial.
Say these words while tapping on the karate chop point: Even though I am resistant to meditation, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway. Even though I am resistant to meditation, I love and accept myself, including my resistance. Even though I am resistant to meditating, I deeply and completely love all of me.
Eyebrow…I resist meditating
Side of Eye…I’ve done it before
Under the Eye…And in my head I can acknowledge the benefit
Under the Nose…So it is somewhat confusing to me that I am so resistant
Chin…Even when I put it on my to-do list, I don’t
Collarbone…Some forms of meditation have been pretty difficult for me
Under the Arm… But other practices have been successful
Top of Head…I guess I’m not completely convinced
Eyebrow…That the benefit justifies the time
Side of Eye…That can’t be true
Under the Eye…I waste lots of time
Nose…On the computer
Chin…Watching TV
Collarbone…On Social Media
Under the Arm…And that time could be spent in meditation
Top of Head…Time spent meditating
Eyebrow…Has to be more beneficial
Side of Eye…Than playing games on my phone
Nose…So that leaves me wondering what the real issue is
Chin…So even though I am resisting meditating
Collarbone…I choose to remain open to the possibility
Under the Arm…That I could change my attitude about this
Top of Head…Meditating is another tool I can use
Eyebrow…To enhance my mental, physical, and spiritual health
Side of Eye…I choose to begin meditating more often
Under the Eye…Just to see where it leads
Nose…If I’m not feeling the benefit
Chin…I give myself permission to use my time in another way
Collarbone…I also choose to experiment
Under the Arm…With a variety of meditation methods
Top of Head…I could consider it an experiment
Eyebrow…I could consider it play
Side of Eye…I could consider it therapy
Under the Eye…I could consider it spiritual practice
Nose…I choose to explore the role of meditation in my life
Chin…My resistance is just another piece of information
Collarbone…About myself
Under the Arm…It would be awesome to learn from this
Top of Head…And more fully understand this part of who I am.
Have you ever done it? I mean, have you ever eaten a whole box of cookies…..all at once? Before you say no, think about Girl Scout Cookie time and the box of Thin Mints. I’m not proud to say it, but I’ve done it…..more than once. Even if you haven’t done it, and you’ve eaten more than you actually intended to, this tapping may help.
Setup (tapping on karate chop point): Even though I just ate a whole box of cookies, I choose to look forward to the day I can control my eating better. Even though I just ate a whole box of cookies, I am open to learning more about why I did it. Even though I just ate a whole box of cookies, I choose to feel hopeful that I can do better in the future.
Eyebrow…I just ate the whole box of cookies
Side of Eye…That was more than a whole day’s calories
Under the Eye…I ate way more calories than my body needs
Nose…It was a lot of sugar
Chin…And a lot of unhealthy fats
Collarbone…The first one tasted good
Under the Arm…Actually, the second one tasted good too
Top of Head…After that I was really just chasing the rush that the first two gave me
Eyebrow…I know why I started eating them
Side of Eye…I was upset
Under the Eye…And I just wanted to feel better
Nose…The sugar worked for a while
Chin…And that taste brings back happy memories
Collarbone…And food always works
Under the Arm…For a while
Top of Head…But then I felt bad
Eyebrow…I felt bad because I did something that wasn’t healthy for me
Side of Eye…And it didn’t solve the problem
Under the Eye…For a minute or two I felt better
Nose…But then I went back to feeling upset
Chin…And guilty about the cookies
Collarbone…I choose to forgive myself for eating the cookies
Under the Arm…I choose to forgive myself for not wanting to feel upset
Top of Head…I choose to learn from this and move forward confidently
Your decision to believe what others tell you is fact or what they tell you is possible may be preventing you from going after the things you desire and can stop you from being your authentic self. Although some people might disagree, I have had a strong tendency to believe what I’m told. Fortunately, this has been less of an issue as I’ve matured. Tap along with this video to gain more clarity about your tendency to believe what you are told.
What do you get when you combine tapping and complaining? Tap-plaining. Complaining doesn’t usually help much. It doesn’t fix anything and doesn’t usually make you feel better. When you tap while complaining you start to feel better, your perspective shifts, and solutions become more obvious. Tap along with the video to experience how this can work.
Do you ever have a plan for when you are going to exercise, but when the time comes, you don’t really feel like it? It happens to me all the time. This is the meridian tapping I have used before getting on the bike or treadmill. I hope it inspires you.
Setup (while tapping on the karate chop point): Even though it is time to exercise right now, and I don’t want to, I honor and respect my thoughts about this. Even though It’s time to exercise right now, and I don’t want to, I honor and respect my feelings about this. Even though its time to exercise right how, and I don’t want to, I honor and respect myself anyway.
Eyebrow…It is time to exercise
Side of Eye…And I don’t want to
Under the Eye…Thats ok
Under the Nose…I don’t always have to want to do something
Chin…There might be a good reason
Collarbone…And I am open to clarity
Under the Arm…This might also be an excuse
Top of Head…And I am open to clarity
Eyebrow…This might also be self-sabotage
Under the Eye…Not wanting to do something isn’t such a big deal
Under the Nose…I can choose to exercise right now anyway
Chin…I can choose to exercise later
Collarbone…I can listen to my inner guidance and decide if I will exercise or not
Under the Arm…I choose to make this decision with love and respect for my feelings
Top of Head…I choose to make this decision with love and respect for myself.
The hard part of this tapping is actually doing it. Even those it is short it is usually enough to get me back on track. Unfortunately part of the issue could be self-sabotage. In that case I can be very resistant to doing the tapping because I know it will actually work.
Give it a try and let me know how it worked for you.
Bedtime tapping is preventative healthcare. Not only can it help you get to sleep more easily, but it can improve the quality of your sleep, and even help the next morning get started with a clean slate. Follow along with the video and see how it works for you. I’d love some feedback from you.
Why is it so hard to set boundaries with other people?
This is something that I have struggled with most of my life. For me, setting boundaries gets all mixed up with religious teachings about loving other people, societal values, and the general admonition to be nice. Intellectually I know that one can set boundaries without being mean. Emotionally, it usually still feels mean. Try this tapping.
Setup (tapping karate chop point): Even though I find it hard to set boundaries with other people, I deeply and completely accept myself and all of my feelings. Even though I have found it hard to set boundaries with other people in the past, I accept myself and all of my feelings about this. Even though I find it hard to set boundaries with other people, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and am looking forward to feeling better about this in the future.
Eyebrow…I find it hard to set boundaries with other people
Side of Eye…I get all nervous
Under the Eye…And I feel it in the pit of my stomach
Under the Nose…And my jaw tightens up
Chin…Even worse, sometimes I stutter
Collarbone…When I do set boundaries, I’m usually very mad
Under the Arm…Then I’m more aggressive than assertive
Top of Head…Or a total basket case
Eyebrow…That’s not really setting boundaries with others
Side of Eye…That is just reacting
Under the Eye…I want to learn more about why it has been hard for me
Under the Nose…I think I’m afraid they won’t like me
Chin…There have been times when I’ve said no
Collarbone…And sometimes it works well
Under the Arm…And sometimes people react badly
Top of Head…I can’t really control other people’s reactions
Eyebrow…And by not setting boundaries, I’m attempting to feel like I’m in control
Side of Eye…But it is really false control
Under the Eye…Because my needs aren’t being met
Under the Nose…I’m looking forward to catching myself in this unhealthy pattern more often
Chin…So that I can observe it and change it
Collarbone…I am open to understanding my motivations in each situation
Under the Arm…I am open to learning new ways to set boundaries with other people
Top of Head…I am looking forward to respecting my own needs while still respecting other people.
This tapping sequence is just a jumping off point. One way to take this further is to tap while telling the story about a specific time that you had trouble setting boundaries. Include what happened, the thoughts in your head at the time if you remember, the feelings that were present during the event, the feelings that you have now when you think about the event, and even how you wished you might have handled it differently. The more specific you get, the better the result.