Have you ever put someone up on a pedestal? Did you think they could do no wrong? How did that work out for you? Turn that around. Do you want to be the one up on the pedestal? If we are really honest, sometimes we do seek that type of relationship with other people. The following tapping exercise gives you a starting point if this is an issue that resonates with you from either side of the pedestal.
Setup (while tapping the karate chop point): The Tao Te Ching tells me that I don’t want to be on a pedestal, but I seem to seek that position anyway. Even though I seem to want to be viewed as something special, or something “more”, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though my mind acknowledges that danger of being put on a pedestal, my behavior suggests that I feel otherwise. In spite of this conflict, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway. Even though I don’t want the pain of falling off of the pedestal, I would like the love and respect that I believe comes with being put on a pedestal. I choose to remain open to new ways of thinking about this.
Side of Eye…I choose to remain open to clarity
Under the Eye…I have a lot of emotional baggage that I don’t fully understand
Under the Nose…I have put others on a pedestal
Chin…And when they let me down and “fall” off of that high place
Collarbone…We generally both get hurt
Under the Arm…I don’t want to continue that pattern with other people
Top of Head…And I don’t want to experience that fall myself either
Eyebrow…I am open to learning new ways of getting my needs met
Side of Eye…Maybe I am confusing adoration with respect
Under the Eye…Maybe I am confusing respect with love
Under the Nose…Maybe I am just confused all the way around
Chin…Awareness is a good place to start with this issue
Collarbone…I choose to be gentle with myself as I learn a new way
Under the Arm…I am looking forward to changes in the way I relate to others
Top of Head…I am looking forward to changes in the way I view myself
As I said, this exercise is just a starting point. I know I have more work to do on this issue. Do you?