Anxiety is a complex subject. This video addresses the form of anxiety that is under the surface, but there isn’t necessarily a clear reason for it. The focus of the tapping is focused on reducing anxiety by small amounts without compromising the need for safety that anxiety actually seems to provide.
Have you ever eaten something you had decided you weren’t going to eat or eaten more of them than you had intended? Sadly, it happens to me more frequently than I would like. What usually happens next is the thought “I might as well eat whatever I want because I already blew it.” The tapping exercise below is a good way to help minimize the damage. These words will work for you, even if what you ate or when you ate it is slightly different. Or, you can substitute your own words.
Say this statement and rate the intensity or how true it feels to you on a 0-10 scale (10=very true). “I’m such a failure.” Now say this one and rate it “I already blew it.” Write down your numbers.
Tap on your karate chop point and use the setup statements. Even though I just ate 3 brownies, and they definitely weren’t on my food plan for this afternoon, I choose to love and accept myself anyway. Even though I ate 3 brownies while waiting for my lunch to cook, I choose to love and accept myself anyway. Even though I feel like a failure since I ate those brownies, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.
Side of Eye…I can’t believe it
Under the Eye…I had been doing so well
Nose…This seems like a huge setback
Chin…Its not like I was really hungry
Collarbone…I am actually cooking lunch right now
Under the Arm…I’m nervous that it won’t be good
Top of Head…I’ve made two dishes that I’ve never made before
Eyebrow…That always makes me anxious
Side of Eye…But I’m also excited to see what happens
Under the Eye…I know that I often eat when I am nervous
Nose…But I’ve already blown my food plan
Chin…So I might as well eat whatever I want
Collarbone…There’s no point in controlling my food now
Under the Arm…I’ve already pointed the finger of guilt my way
Top of Head…I’m already wallowing in blame
Eyebrow…So I might as well eat.
Side of Eye…I already blew it
Under the Eye…I already ate something that is on my forbidden list
Nose…I ate way too much of it too
Chin…I might as well go ahead and eat whatever I want
Collarbone…That’s what quitters to
Under the Arm…I’m a guilty and shameful quitter
Top of Head…Ouch! That hurts!
Eyebrow…Sometimes I do give up
Side of Eye…Sometimes I don’t
Under the Eye…I don’t have to give up just because I made a mistake
Nose…I have options
Chin…I have choices
Collarbone…I already blew it might not be totally accurate
Under the Arm…I wouldn’t tell anyone else to give up just because of a simple error
Top of Head…I’m not going to tell myself that right now either
Eyebrow…I can start back on my food plan whenever I choose
Side of Eye…Including now
Under the Eye…This is just a setback
Nose…I can get back on track right now
Chin…In fact,, I am back on track right now
Collarbone…And I can stay back on track if I choose to
Under the Arm…I’ve been back on track for several minutes now
Top of Head…I am feeling better already.
Take a deep breath and let it out gently. Say your original statements again and rate them. Notice any shift you may have made. If the intensity is still higher than a 3 or 4, keep tapping with the above examples or better yet, use your own words. For many people there will be a shift to a slightly different thought, feeling or belief. Feel free to continue tapping on the new thought or write it down for later work.
Start tapping on your karate chop point. Say these words aloud: Nothing calms me down better than food. Even though nothing calms me down better than food, I don’t like what it does to my body. I am open to learning new ways of calming down. I’m also open to learning more about the things that upset me so that I don’t even need to use food to calm myself.
Side of Eye…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Under the Eye…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Nose…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Chin…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Collarbone…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Under the Arm…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Top of Head…When I get upset, nothing calms me down better than food
Eyebrow…Food calms me down
Side of Eye…But it also is making me fat
Under the Eye…Food calms me down
Nose…And I often need to calm down
Chin…I get upset pretty often
Collarbone…And I use food to calm me down
Under the Arm…It is quick, easy, and painless
Top of Head…Well, maybe not painless
Eyebrow…Being overweight is definitely painful
Side of Eye…It is painful physically and emotionally
Under the Eye…I probably need to learn new ways to deal with my emotions
Nose…Food is quick, but the side effects are long
Chin…I can learn to manage my stress another way
Collarbone…I can learn to calm myself another way
Under the Arm…Even though I have used food to calm myself in the past
Top of Head…I am excited about the possibility of learning a new way
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. What do you notice in your body? Did anything shift or change? What do you notice in your emotions? If new thoughts and ideas popped up, keep tapping.
My first introduction to tapping (aka The Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT) used acrophobia as the target. It was a great option given the high prevalence of height phobias. According to Wikipedia, acrophobia is an extreme or irrational fear of heights. Because we were in southern Florida, an amazingly flat area, it wasn’t possible to truck us of to some mountainous area and we only had five minutes to spend on the technique. Instead, the leader had us all stand up on some very rickety folding chairs. I’m not particularly acrophobic, but I am afraid of public embarrassment and falling down would surely trigger embarrassment. Many people in the audience did report a dramatic change in their height phobia within only a few minutes of tapping.
In my psychology training I have learned about many techniques for addressing phobias including exposure, desensitization, flooding, and medications. It is usually very difficult, if not impossible to talk someone out of their phobias. Exposure, desensitization, and flooding really do work. What most people don’t like about these techniques is that they take a fair amount of time and agony in order to see the results. One extremely positive feature of tapping is that the relief is often rapid and relatively painless in comparison to the more commonly used therapy techniques.
When using tapping to address acrophobia you can focus on the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors and make a huge impact. Many people report heart pounding, breathing difficulty, and sweating in reaction to their phobia. Tapping on the meridians while focused on any of these sensations will help to decrease the discomfort. It can be effective to tap while in the terrifying situation, imagining the situation from the safety of your own living room, or looking at a picture that triggers thoughts of the situation.
You can also tap on the automatic thoughts that happen while experiencing or visualizing the situation. These may be thoughts such as “I’m going to die”, “I’m going to fall”, or even “This fear is irrational.” No thought is too trivial or too ridiculous to tap on. Remember, phobias are irrational by definition.
Some people develop a fear of heights in response to a situation in which something bad happened to them or in response to something that happened to someone else that they learned about. This could be a childhood prank in which someone acted like they were going to push you off of a bridge or a news report of someone falling off of a roof. If these events remain stored in your energy system for any length of time a phobia can develop.
One of my favorite tapping techniques is continuous tapping while having a conversation with yourself, or someone else, about the things that have happened in the past. You can include a description of the event, the sounds, the smells, and the thoughts in your head in the conversation while you are tapping.
Does the thought of skiing on a tall mountain make you shudder? Does looking over the side of a tall staircase take your breath away? There is no need to suffer. Claim your emotional freedom and learn to tap. Click HERE for a video to get you started.
Yes, but…Those words can derail us in so many ways. This applies whether the words are said to us or whether they are part of the little voice in our own head. These words can hold us back from going for our goals. Tapping can make a difference and neutralize the yes, buts….from the past, present, and future.
Trusting your own inner guidance and following your own heart can be difficult, particularly if you have a lifetime of learning that can squelch it. Tap along and allow your inner voice to be heard.
The best way to live is to be like water
For water benefits all things and goes against none of them
It provides for all people and even cleanses those places a man is loath to go
In this way it is just like Tao
(from Tao Te Ching: The Definitive Edition by Lao Tzu with translation and commentary by Jonathan Star)
This tapping was inspired by that verse. I interpret this to mean that good things are to be shared by everyone, from the highest to the most lowly. Gulp! That means that good things are even for people I don’t like. I have had to tap on that one more than once, and truthfully have a long way to go. This video is to get you started with this difficult life practice.