Do you make things harder than they have to be? I know that I sometimes do. There have been many occasions when I’ve struggled through a task, and on completion been amazed (and distressed) when I realize that it could have been much simpler or easier than I made it. Perhaps it is prior programming that taught me that things worth having require work, or maybe it is the number of past experiences when change was truly difficult. I suspect that I have just been getting in my own way much of the time. This tapping video is about letting things be easier whenever that is possible and at least not making them needlessly difficult.
I often find it hard to know when it is time to take action versus time to wait. When exactly is the right time? This tapping video was inspired by portions of the Tao Te Ching, Verse 8.
When acting, remember – timing is everything
One who lives in accordance with nature
does not go against the way of things
He moves in harmony with the present moment
always knowing the truth of just what to do.
Setup: (tapping on the karate chop point) It is hard to just be me. We’re not human doings we are human beings. I say that all the time to other people but I’m not sure how to apply it to myself. I am very much a human doing. Do. Do. Do. I know I need to spend time reflecting on who I am, rather than what I do. I seem to have lost the lesson that Katie (my daughter) taught me. Being is enough. I choose to love and accept myself – my being.
Side of Eye…Just be here and fully present in this moment
Under the Eye…I don’t have to dwell in the past all of the time
Under the Nose…I don’t have to anticipate the future all of the time
Chin…I want to practice being in the now
Collarbone…I don’t want to fill my NOW with business and activity
Under the Arm…I know I get confused sometimes and think that my value is based on what I do, not who I am
Top of Head…I’m able to remember that more often when thinking about other people than I do when thinking about myself
Eyebrow…Honestly, there is room for improvement all the way around
Side of Eye…Just be
Under the Nose…But that is missing the whole point
Chin…Just be me
Collarbone…In every minute of every day – be me
Under the Arm…It seems a little scary. No it seems a lot scary.
Top of Head…But that’s ok. I can be scared if that’s the way I really feel. I’ll just be me.
What is your mindset? Are you focused on scarcity or are you focused on abundance?
Begin by tapping on the karate chop point. Setup: I have a tendency to hoard things. Not like hoarding you see on television, but I sure have trouble throwing things away. Probably more important than that, I have the mindset that I need to save things in case things go wrong in the future. That mindset goes against what I know about the law of attraction. I know this must be a real issue for me because I don’t even want to look at it. I’ll take that as a sign that I have work to do on this. I choose to at least begin looking at this issue. I accept myself. I accept my feelings. And I accept my reluctance too.
Side of Eye…These issues may really be holding me back.
Under the Eye…If I am really using energy anticipating bad things happening
Nose…I am creating those bad things to some extent
Chin…Worrying about worst case scenario is my primary mode
Collarbone…I’ve always thought that by being ready for the worst
Under the Arm…I could handle anything
Top of Head…It is overwhelming to think about how that may be impacting me in the long run
Eyebrow…It certainly has gotten in the way of me enjoying the moment as much as perhaps I could
Side of Eye…I want to embrace this concept more fully
Under the Eye…I suspect it is going to take quite a while for me to really make those changes in my way of interacting with life
Nose…But even small changes can have a big impact
Chin…I’m still feeling some resistance here
Collarbone…I choose to be patient with myself
Under the Arm…I can sit here and tap on this issue until I feel more calm
Top of Head…I can tap on this issue any time I need to
Take a deep breath and let it out. What did you notice? When I did this tapping originally a lot of interesting messages came up including things I heard and experienced in childhood, news stories, and information from classes I’ve taken that have led to my previous views on this topic. If things came up for you, please write them down so you can continue tapping to release any negative beliefs that might be holding you back.
I have been reading Tao Te Ching: The Definitive Edition by Lao Tzu, translated by Jonathan Star for quite a while now. Sounds like light lunch time reading, doesn’t it? In the introduction I was struck with the similarity between the Tao Te Ching and the Holy Bible. Please hear me out. The first similarity was the difficulty in preserving a knowledge base that was primarily oral. Both the Tao Te Ching and the stories of the Holy Bible were oral traditions that were written down at a later time. There are many similar challenges including the writer’s own biases when hearing and re-telling a story, the political and cultural influences of the time, language translation issues, and poor memory. Have you ever played telephone? By the time you get even 2-3 people deep into the retelling of a message it can often be significantly altered, not just in the details, but in the real message of the story.
The second similarity that struck me was the question of whether the story or phrase was intended to be literal or illustrative. This quandary is often evident in Bible stories and there is considerable discord between the factions that believe that everything is literal and those who believe it is a figurative lesson meant to inspire or teach.
A third similarity was that reading the verses of the Tao Te Ching elicits more questions that the answers provided. That has often been my experience when reading from the Bible. I can easily generate long lists of “but what about…?” from either book.
You may be wondering where Abraham Lincoln fits in all of this. As I was thinking about writing this post I recalled an event many years ago when my older son, then about 3 or 4, was almost inconsolable when he asked me about the man whose face was on the penny. I told him about Abraham Lincoln, and he asked me where he was. I explained that he had been killed many years ago. My son began crying. When asked why he was crying he stated, “because I’ll never get to know him.” That is also the truth of the Tao Te Ching and the Holy Bible. We will never really know.
As seekers of truth and wisdom we can make best guesses, sit in meditation, engage in prayer, and evaluate the cumulative knowledge of others, but we will never really know. For me it does feel sad. So much has been lost.
Beyond the wisdom of the texts, what can I learn from this?
- Don’t assume that others will remember my stories accurately
- If it is important, I should write it down
- It is my responsibility to share the stories of my “tribe”, culture, and my life. No one else can really do it.
- If I want to know the stories and beliefs of my ancestors, I need to ask while they are still here and able to share them with me. I wait at my own peril.
The best way to live is to be like water
For water benefits all things and goes against none of them
It provides for all people and even cleanses those places a man is loath to go
In this way it is just like Tao
(from Tao Te Ching: The Definitive Edition by Lao Tzu with translation and commentary by Jonathan Star)
This tapping was inspired by that verse. I interpret this to mean that good things are to be shared by everyone, from the highest to the most lowly. Gulp! That means that good things are even for people I don’t like. I have had to tap on that one more than once, and truthfully have a long way to go. This video is to get you started with this difficult life practice.
Does serving others seem like a good idea, but when it is time to actually do it you feel resistance? The following tapping exercise is designed to help you begin to address any resistance you might feel.
Say these words while tapping on the karate chop point: When I think about serving others I get a little uncomfortable. The word “serve” really sticks in my throat. I think of slavery, oppression, and ownership. I sometimes enjoy doing things for other people, but a resist if I feel I must. I am choosing to tap now for more clarity about my resistance. I am choosing to learn more about my motivations. I am choosing to love and accept myself on this journey.
Eyebrow…The importance of serving others is something I’ve grown up with
Side of Eye…But I’ve also grown up with the concept of being used by others.
Under the Eye…That gets a little muddy in my head sometimes.
Under the Nose…I can’t even say that my motives are always altruistic when I am doing things for other people.
Chin…If I want them to feel gratitude am I really serving?
Collarbone…I don’t know.
Under the Arm…If I want them to remember what I’ve done for them am I really serving?
Top of Head…I don’t know.
Eyebrow…The motive seems to be more important that the action in this one.
Side of Eye…If that is the case, I have a long way to go.
Under the Eye…My behavior is much more in line with service than is my attitude.
Under the Nose…I do care about other people.
Chin…I’m not completely narcissistic and selfish.
Collarbone…I get pleasure from helping others.
Under the Arm…But if I’m getting pleasure from it am I really serving?
Top of Head…Do I have to be miserable to serve?
Eyebrow…Do I have to suffer to serve?
Side of Eye…Many of the great “servants” that I’ve been told about
Under the Eye…Had lots of bad things happen to them.
Under the Nose…I don’t really want that.
Chin…I don’t think this is something that I’m going to get the answer to.
Collarbone…I think this is one of those things where it is the journey that is important.
Under the Arm…I usually hate those.
Top of Head…I’d like some more guidelines please.
Eyebrow…How much service is enough?
Side of Eye…Can two acts of service balance out an afternoon of self-indulgence?
Under the Eye…I’m not totally serious about that, but I’m not totally kidding either.
Under the Nose…I want to get a little bit more comfortable with the idea.
Chin…I’d like to recognize more opportunities for service.
Collarbone…I’d like to think of others more often than I do now.
Under the Arm…I guess that is progress.
Top of Head…I choose to remain open to more clarity and understanding about serving others.
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Notice how you feel. Were there questions that popped into your mind? Were there moments of clarity? Write them down. They could be inspiration for more tapping later.
Take a look at this translation from Tao Te Ching: The Definitive Edition by Jonathan Star.
The best way to live is to be like water for water benefits all things and goes against none of them. It provides for all people and even cleanses those places a man is loath to go. In this way it is just like the Tao.
Live in accordance with the nature of things: Build your house on solid ground. Keep your mind still. When giving, be kind. When speaking, be truthful. When ruling, be just. When working, be one-pointed. When acting, remember – timing is everything.
One who lives in accordance with nature does not go against the way of things. He moves in harmony with the present moment always knowing the truth of just what to do.
In Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao he offers this translation of the same verse:
The supreme good is like water, which nourishes all things without trying to. It flows to low places loathed by all men. Therefore it is like the Tao.
Live in accordance with the nature of things. In dwelling, be close to the land. In meditation, go deep in the heart. In dealing with others, be gentle and kind. Stand by your word. Govern with equity. Be timely in choosing the right moment.
One who lives in accordance with nture does not go against the way of things. He moves in harmony with the present moment, always knowing the truth of just what to do.
A few things stood out for me when reading these two translations.
- Let it be easy
- Good things are for everyone, not just the people I like or the people who are like me
- Your word, what you say, is a representation of who you are
- Some things may be right, but this may not be the right time
- Stop trying to force things to happen
- Be who you are. Don’t try to be somebody else
- I have an inner knowing and I need to follow it
These are not necessarily things that are easy to grasp, easy to implement, or comfortable to contemplate. That is where tapping can be a big benefit. We can tap to minimize resistance. We can tap on feeling uncomfortable. We can tap about specific incidents in which we failed miserably in these lofty goals. We can tap about our uncertaintly about whether we could every achieve such a state of enlightenment.
One of my favorite ways to get started when reading spiritual texts of any kind is to start tapping while I am reading it. I believe that it helps with understanding and begins to melt away resistance. When I tap while reading I also seem to be more alert to changes in my body that can signal that a particular passage requires a deeper investigation or has particular applicability for my life.
Try it. Pick one or both of the translations about and just start your tapping. Switch to a different tapping spot whenever you feel like it. Notice what you are feeling. If you want, you can stop to jot down some notes any time you feel moved to do so. Then, resume your tapping when you are done.
As always, tapping that includes your own words, thoughts, and experiences will be the most beneficial.