Say this statement “I am a sugar addict.” How true does that feel to you on a 0-10 scale (10=very true)? Write that number down before you start tapping to release the hold that sugar addiction has on you.
I’m a planner. In fact, my standard mode of operation has always been to try to anticipate every possible complication or contingency and plan for it. I’m the classic “if he does this, then I’ll do this” kind of girl. Since beginning to study the principles of martial arts I’ve been intrigued by the possibility of letting go of such rigid thinking. In theory it sounds like a great idea. In terms of fighting or martial arts it even makes some sense to me. I had the opportunity to test this a while back in my real life.
The best part of this story for me is….I didn’t pre-plan it. It wasn’t one of those times when I said, “hey I think I’ll see how these principles would work here.” I was scheduled for a meeting with a lot of different professional people. In the past these meetings have always felt quite adversarial. I’ve always gone into the meeting wearing my very best power suit and armed to the teeth with copies of the current applicable legal statues, braced for a fight. Typically I would have spent the night before rehearsing in my mind everything that I thought I should say and appropriate responses for any and all objections.
I woke up on the morning of the meeting and had actually forgotten that the meeting was scheduled. I put on a rather feminine (aka “girlie”) dress and went to work. There was only a slight moment of panic when I realized I was deviating from my plan. On the way to the meeting several things happened that weren’t in my game plan, including a change of meeting location and awful traffic. During that drive I reflected briefly on what my desired outcome was and set my intention to reach that goal.
When I arrived in the room I spent a few minutes listening to the mood of the other individuals that had arrived. I paid some attention to the energy that each was giving off. Normally I would have just assumed them all to be hostile. What I found was that most of the people in the room had the same objective that I did. I made a mental note. I also chose to position myself nearest the person who was most likely to be my major opponent. Again, this was in sharp contrast to anything I might have done before.
When my adversary attacked (verbally) I countered. I relied on my previous experience and training to allow me to respond, not some pre-orchestrated response. This worked so well I was amazed. Each time there was a new objection or a diversion I focused again primarily on my objective. I was able to adapt and continue working toward what I believed was the inevitable goal.
The meeting actually went well and my objectives were met. In the past I would have turned tail and literally run away. Instead I stayed and connected with the individuals that were present and made sure that there wouldn’t be any stray items to deal with later.
While all of this was happening I certainly wasn’t thinking of Isshin, Mushin, and Zanshin. It wasn’t until I was driving back to my office that it occurred to me that my meeting is some ways paralleled these principles. I was very excited. While I have studied martial arts principles in the dojo, I was excited to experience the principles in the rest of my world.
This story came from Linda. She said that she was tired, frustrated, and irritable after her difficult day. As any good food addict will do – she turned to food. She wasn’t proud of it, but that day she had faced the marshmallow fluff and it won. Here is the way we started tapping. Feel free to tap along.
Setup: (tapping the karate chop point) Even though I gave into temptation and ate marshmallow fluff by the spoonful today, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway. Even though I ate marshmallow fluff in response to being tired and frustrated, I choose to view myself with love and compassion. Even though I ate marshmallow fluff in secret so nobody would know, I choose to get back on track right now.
Side of Eye…First I put some on my brownie
Under the Eye…Then I ate some on a spoon with some peanut butter
Nose…Then I just ate it off a spoon without anything else
Chin…Knowing that I still have these behaviors makes me feel so defeated sometimes
Collarbone…I wasn’t really hungry, but I was craving something sweet
Under the Arm…It was here, easy, and easy to hide
Top of Head…I didn’t eat enough to do a lot of damage to my diet
Eyebrow…But I did damage my confidence
Side of Eye…I also know that once I start, it is sometimes hard to stop
Under the Eye…It’s good to know that I can tap on that issue too if I need to
Nose…I am angry with myself for eating the fluff
Chin…I’m disappointed with myself for eating the fluff
Collarbone…I feel like a failure
Under the Arm…I feel like a fraud
Top of Head…The fluff won, and I hate that
In this case we just started where she was at the time. The words of the setup statement state the truth of what happened, but also state where she wanted to end up –acceptance and able to get back on track. It wouldn’t have been beneficial to pretend that it didn’t happen. During the rest of the tapping the behaviors were described but also some of the negative self talk about eating the fluff. This part can be expanded to cover all of the feelings that come up.
For Linda it didn’t really take more than this. As soon as she acknowledged the behavior and expressed her feelings about it while tapping she experienced considerable relief. She told me later that she did additional tapping on the specific feeling of being a failure at another time and was able to get clarity and relief there too.
As you can see, the tapping doesn’t have to be complicated. You just have to get started.
Sometimes reading and studying ancient texts can seem daunting or even impossible. I like to use tapping to break down the barriers that keep us from being able to explore new or complex ideas. In the video below I demonstrate tapping on not feeling smart enough and the automatic negative thought of never going to be able to “get it.” Feel free to tap along.
What do Eight Row Flight, worms, foie gras, mullet, and soil all have in common? They are all things that I couldn’t have imagined in a million years that I would read about or even care about. But, since reading The Third Plate: Field Notes on the Future of Food by Dan Barber I do care. And frankly, I wish I could go back to my state of ignorance is bliss. Reading this book will forever change the way you look at food, farming, and consumerism.
I received this book as an advance uncorrected proof through a www.goodreads.com giveaway. Like many of the giveaways, I’m not sure what drew me to the book. When it arrived in the mail I put it on the shelf for later, mostly because it was visually intimidating. It isn’t a small book and there are very few pictures or diagrams. It just felt overwhelming. Fortunately looks CAN be deceiving. It reads quite easily and although it contains a great deal of technical information it didn’t really cause the book to bog down for me. I have already passed it along to a friend. It was really that informative and good to read.
After finishing the book I made some life changes and have continued to incorporate the information into my life. The book confirmed what I already knew – fresh produce from an organic garden tastes better than the store-bought produce (even the organic stuff). Now I know why, companion planting and crop rotations. I also have suspicions about the origins of my food allergies and gluten issues. I found it difficult to read about the corn, wheat, and soy because, in my mind I have vilified these substances as culprits in my own health issues. The realization that the grains I have consumed have no real resemblance to REAL corn, wheat, and soy and that this imposter phenomenon is what has made me sick actually makes me quite angry. I’m pretty sure that my consumption of meat will continue to decrease and change.
The book speaks to the conceptual and global issues related to farm-to-table eating and sustainable agriculture; however, it leaves me feeling very challenged about how to put this knowledge into practice. Short of growing my entire food supply myself (not feasible), I don’t know the best way to move forward on some of these issues. Imagine the look on your grocer’s face when you ask not only how fresh the fish is, but also where it was caught and how it was killed. Or better yet, ask what was grown in the field along with my tomato. And by the way, what crop was grown in that field the previous year?
I highly recommend that you read the book. Maybe your food habits will change. Maybe they won’t. But I am certain that your view of food WILL change.
My Tapping World Summit materials arrived in the mail today. I am SOOOOOO excited. Want to learn more? Check out www.thetappingsolution.com.
Energy Psychology has the power to revolutionize healing. Nowhere is that more evident that in the field of trauma recovery. In the book Energy Tapping for Trauma, as he has with all of his books, Dr. Gallo has included enough technical data and research to satisfy the skeptic, sufficient case summaries to encourage the hesitant, and step-by-step exercises for those who are ready for relief.
The various Energy Psychology techniques presented in this volume will be useful for traumas big and small. had a bad day? Try the Simple Trauma Technique. Are you the victim of natural disaster or war? Consider the Trauma Removal Technique. There really is something here for everyone and every situation.
I’ve been using some of these techniques for years and I am a living testament to their benefit. Now I am excited to expand my practice with these other techniques. Dr. Gallo’s work in this field has made relief as close at hand as our fingertips. Get busy and start healing your trauma now.
The term bibliotherapy may be relative modern; however, the concept of using books for healing is reportedly as old as the sign of the anxiety Grecian library at Thebes which translates as, “the healing place of the soul.” In the 1930s Dr. Karl Menninger and Dr. William Menninger advocated the use of books within the psychotherapeutic process.
Pardek, an expert in bibliotherapy, defined it as a dynamic interaction which occurs between the personality of the reader and the literature. Others define bibliotherapy as the use of literary work in the treatment of emotional and physical problems.
Bibliotherapy has many uses including:
- To gain insight into a problem
- To provide relaxation and diversion
- To stimulate discussion of problems
- To encourage one to focus outside of one’s self
NOTE: Books are not a substitute for the therapists’ time and are not to be considered a shortcut.
When you walk through a bookstore or browse online you will likely notice a very large section of books labeled psychology or self-help. Many of these books may be recommended by a therapist during treatment. Bibliotherapy is not limited to that section of books alone. Biographies, novels, non-fiction, comic books, and children’s books may also be used to stimulate growth and wellness. The use of movies and videos has also gained popularity in achieving the same goals.
You can be sure more book reviews are coming……Happy Reading.
Cravings can be intense. Sometimes I’ve been successful with willpower to resist a craving. More often than not, I haven’t. That picture really says it all. When I want chocolate I want it now, I want a lot of it, and I have had fantasies of swimming in a vat of it. Join in with me while I use meridian tapping to address a strong craving for chocolate and a feeling of resistance about even doing the tapping – because I know it works.