Do you feel like there is not enough time to do all of the things you would like to do? If so, follow along with this tapping video to increase your sense of comfort in dealing with the issue of time.
Serving Others – Tapping Inspired by the Tao Te Ching
Does serving others seem like a good idea, but when it is time to actually do it you feel resistance? The following tapping exercise is designed to help you begin to address any resistance you might feel.
Say these
words while tapping on the karate chop point: When I think about serving others I get a little uncomfortable. The word “serve” really sticks in my throat. I think of slavery, oppression, and ownership. I sometimes enjoy doing things for other people, but a resist if I feel I must. I am choosing to tap now for more clarity about my resistance. I am choosing to learn more about my motivations. I am choosing to love and accept myself on this journey.
Eyebrow…The importance of serving others is something I’ve grown up with
Side of Eye…But I’ve also grown up with the concept of being used by others.
Under the Eye…That gets a little muddy in my head sometimes.
Under the Nose…I can’t even say that my motives are always altruistic when I am doing things for other people.
Chin…If I want them to feel gratitude am I really serving?
Collarbone…I don’t know.
Under the Arm…If I want them to remember what I’ve done for them am I really serving?
Top of Head…I don’t know.
Eyebrow…The motive seems to be more important that the action in this one.
Side of Eye…If that is the case, I have a long way to go.
Under the Eye…My behavior is much more in line with service than is my attitude.
Under the Nose…I do care about other people.
Chin…I’m not completely narcissistic and selfish.
Collarbone…I get pleasure from helping others.
Under the Arm…But if I’m getting pleasure from it am I really serving?
Top of Head…Do I have to be miserable to serve?
Eyebrow…Do I have to suffer to serve?
Side of Eye…Many of the great “servants” that I’ve been told about
Under the Eye…Had lots of bad things happen to them.
Under the Nose…I don’t really want that.
Chin…I don’t think this is something that I’m going to get the answer to.
Collarbone…I think this is one of those things where it is the journey that is important.
Under the Arm…I usually hate those.
Top of Head…I’d like some more guidelines please.
Eyebrow…How much service is enough?
Side of Eye…Can two acts of service balance out an afternoon of self-indulgence?
Under the Eye…I’m not totally serious about that, but I’m not totally kidding either.
Under the Nose…I want to get a little bit more comfortable with the idea.
Chin…I’d like to recognize more opportunities for service.
Collarbone…I’d like to think of others more often than I do now.
Under the Arm…I guess that is progress.
Top of Head…I choose to remain open to more clarity and understanding about serving others.
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Notice how you feel. Were there questions that popped into your mind? Were there moments of clarity? Write them down. They could be inspiration for more tapping later.
Book Review – Mind Over Medicine
I had two thoughts when I first read Mind Over Medicine: Proof That You Can Heal Yourself by 
Lissa Rankin, M.D. My first thought – “I really like this”. My second thought – “This is a lot of work.”
I waited a while after finishing this book before event attempting to write a review. There is a lot of information in this book. Some of it, quite frankly, really annoyed me. This wasn’t because I think Dr. Rankin is wrong, but because I didn’t want to hear it.
The beginning of the book is about the placebo and nocebo theories. I understand what she was trying to communicate and I think the inclusion of this information adds credibility to what came later in the book. There is a negative connotation associated with the word placebo in the medical facilities in which I have worked. Therefore, each time she mentioned any CAM treatments and labeled the effect as placebo, I felt my energy shift and I was aware of strong defensiveness. Again, not necessarily a bad thing – but quite uncomfortable.
The other sections of the book in which she gets into the prescription for healing were wonderful and helped to restore my energy. Warning: if you want to get the most out of this book you have to really do the exercises, and they are not easy. You will learn some things about yourself that might just blow your mind.
For me, this won’t be a read it and you are done type of book. I expect to go back and read it several more times. I highly recommend it to you too.
Tapping Video – I’m Not Good Enough
Sometimes it is our inner belief that we are not good enough or not worthy enough that blocks us from receiving the good things we desire. Tap along and get an upgrade for your life.
Tapping Video – My Greatest Strengths
Book Review – People of the Blue Water: A Record of Life Among the Walapai and Havasupai Indians
I had this book on my shelf for many years before actually reading it. As I was packing to move to the southwest I found it and decided that it was the perfect time to put it at the top of my to read list. I’m very glad that I did. My primary complaint with the book is that it was too short. I wanted to know so much more – about the Native American people and customs and about the author and her motivations and experiences. The author’s abiity to evoke that sense of wonder and curiosity is a testament to both the subject and her writing style.
There were times when I was horrified by some of the customs and found it difficult to keep reading. I almost quit several times. If you are an animal lover – beware. While episodes of what I would call extreme cruelty were explained within the culture and zeitgeist, it didn’t make it any more palatable. On the other hand, there are certainly positive lessons to be learned as well.
The book was highly readable and is really a compilation of events that were shared in letters with the author’s family. I could imagine these tales being retold in social gatherings and probably gaining a life of their own. I can only imagine what a mother far away must have thought about her daughter’s adventures. I am sure I would have been both proud and horrified.
The description of the location made me remember fondly my own trips to the Grand Canyon and to yearn for another trip. Now that I live closer, that might happen more often.
Live vicariously – read People of the Blue Water by Flora Gregg Iliff.
Tapping Exercise – Feeling Overwhelmed
Its embarrassing to admit this, but sometimes I feel so overwhelmed that I forget to tap. I hate it when I suddenly, after way too much angst, think about tapping. Here is a short tapping exercise to get you started when you find yourself doing the same thing.
Say this statement aloud, “I feel overwhelmed.” Rate the intensity or truth of the statement on a 0-10 scale where 10 is very true. Write the number down for later.
Repeat this setup statement three times while tapping on the karate chop point. “Even though I feel overwhelmed right now, and that’s my excuse for not tapping, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and all of my feelings — even my excuses.
Begin tapping, using a different reminder phrase at each of the tapping points.
Eyebrow…I feel overwhelmed
Side of Eye…So I can’t tap
Under the Eye…I feel overwhelmed
Under the Nose…I feel so overhwhelmed that I can’t even do anything
Chin…I can’t even tap because I’m so overwhelmed
Collarbone…I feel overwhelmed
Under the Arm…I AM overwhelmed
Top of Head…You would be too if you were me
Eyebrow…I have good reasons to feel overwhelmed
Side of Eye…I am overwhelmed
Under the Eye…So it’s okay if I’m stuck
Under the Nose…Well, maybe its not ok with me
Chin…Tapping is pretty easy
Collarbone…I could probably tap, even though I’m so overwhelmed
Under the Arm…And I feel pretty good after I tap
Top of Head…It just might work
Take a deep breath and say the original statement again, “I feel overwhelmed.” Rate it on the 0-10 scale. Was there any change? If your new rating is above a 3, continue tapping with the statements above or use your own words about what you are feeling until the intensity or truth of the statement comes down.
Valentine’s Day Traditions
When I think of Valentine’s Day I always think of red construction paper, doilies, stickers, and hearts. Our tradition was to make our Valentine’s Day cards instead of purchasing them. Pictures were sometimes cut from old cards and silly rhyming verses were created.
How many of you know why the tradition of Valentine’s Day was started? I know I didn’t. Accounts differ somewhat, but most people agree that Valentine’s Day started with Saint Valentine, who was a priest in Rome. He was jailed and executed for marrying couples during a ban on marriages decreed by the Emperor Claudius II. Valentine was executed on February 14, 269.
This corresponded with a holiday that honored Juno, the Roman Goddess of women and marriage and the festival of Lupercalia. In 496, Pope Gelasius set aside February 14th as a holiday honoring Saint Valentine.
Valentine’s Day has been celebrated throughout history in various ways. In the Middle Ages, men and women drew names from a bowl to see who would be there valentine. They would wear these names on their sleeves for a week. That is where the expression, wearing your heart on your sleeve, comes from. Interestingly, the selection of names from a bowl in order to “pair up” was also a tradition associated with the festival of Lupercalia.
As Christianity emerged, old pagan practices were changed or renamed. At one point the names of saints were drawn from the bowl instead and the boys and girls were expected to draw inspiration from the chosen saint throughout the year. By the middle of the 18th century, written cards and gifts were exchanged.
In England several hundred years ago, many children dressed up as adults on Valentine’s Day. They went caroling from home to home. A tradition song was “good morning to you Valentine; Curl your locks as I do mine — Two before and three behind; good morning to you, Valentine.” That doesn’t seem very romantic to me.
In Wales wooden love spoons were carved and given as gifts. Hearts, keys, and keyholes often decorated the spoons. These decorations were understood to mean “You unlock my heart!” This was the basis for the expression “spooning.”
Another tradition was for young girls to write the names of her boyfriends on bits of paper. The paper was rolled in clay and dropped in water. The first name to rise would be her true valentine.
Bay leaves were also useful among unmarried girls in finding a husband. They would pin 5 bay leaves to their pillow on the evening before Valentine’s Day. One leaf would be in the center and the others to each of the four corners. If they did this then their future husband would be revealed to them in their dreams.
Finally, from Italy, here is a custom I like. In the evening the couples go out to dinner. Then, gifts are given such as red roses, perfume, diamonds, or Baci Perugina. Baci Perugina are small chocolate covered hazelnuts that contain a small piece of paper with a romantic poem in four languages.
This year, seek your own tradition. It is a holiday to say “I love you, Je t’aime, Moi oiy neya, Ich liebe Dich, Ti amo, Saya cinta padamu, Mahal Kita, or Eg elskar deg.
Enjoy!
Lea’s Rules – Avoid Corn
Anyone who knows me very well knows that I need to avoid many common food items because they make me very sick. It is not a casual “I think I’ll stop eating snails” kind of thing. Perhaps the hardest for me has been corn. Sure I like the taste of corn bread, corn on the cob, and creamed corn. Giving it up isn’t without some severe nostalgia; however, the real difficulty lies in the pervasiveness of corn in the American diet.
Because of my relative success, many people have asked me for the guildelines I follow in eliminating corn from my diet. Beward – purging your diet of corn is not for the lazy or faint of heart. It takes an abundance of dedication, research, and perseverence. I believe it is worth it. In response to the questions, I have prepared for you my short list of corn avoidance rules. While written with a bit of humor to counterbalance the bitterness of the task, I am also being serious about what can be involved.
- Do not eat processed foods – not ever. If you feel you absolutely must eat something that comes in a package, don’t eat it if it contains an ingredient you cannot read or do now know what it is.
- Make everything from scratch so that you know what is in it. Even your common spice containers may be suspect.
- If you don’t have to peel it, chop it, or core it – eat with great caution.
- Put manifacturer’s phone numbers on speed dial. Plan to call the company before using almost anything in a box, can, or frozen food section. Remember, corn does not have to be labeled. The fact that it isn’t listed as an allergen on the package doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
- Never assume you know what is in the product you are ready to eat. Even powdered sugar has corn starch.
- If it is something that could stick together, but isn’t sticking, it probably has corn starch to prevent the sticking.
- If it comes in a pill/tablet – assume it has corn in it until proven otherwise. It should be listed on all medication package inserts and your pharmacist should be able to check it out as well. Unfortunately all of the ingredients in your medications don’t simply say corn. They will be called something else most of the time.
- Only buy supplements or vitamins that specifically state NO CORN. “No corn added” is not sufficient and is a real give away that there is probably corn. If it is supposed to be chewable it has to be sweetened with something. That something is often corn.
- Bottled spiced and herbs, condiments, sauces, and gravy are all suspect. Call the company or make your own.
- Deli meats almost all contain corn. Roast your own turkey, beef, or chicken at home and slice it thin. Think like a pioneer woman. Convenience does not exist. You need to pre-plan everything. If you do the planning, it can almost feel like convenience on some days.
- Buy a very nice insulated cooler/lunchbox and carry most of your meals with you. This is a place to make a good investment. If you happen to go somewhere that is corn safe, count your blessings and take your food back home for another day.
- Always carry corn-free snacks in your car, purse, briefcase, or pocket. Don’t be caught unprepared.
- If you are going to eat out, skip the condiments that are on the table. Tell your server that you would like to speak to the kitchen manager because you cannot eat corn. I have found most places to be very knowledgable and willing to feed me safetly. I carry a laminated card with me that lists my food allergies so that the kitchen can have it while preparing my food.
For people with serious corn allergy it gets even worse from here since many other things are also made from corn products, including plastic bottles we drink from. I have not become sick from a plastic bottle yet, but do try to stay away from them.
I know it sounds like a lot, but my philosophy is that it is a small price to pay to keep me feeling healthy.